Today as I was scrolling through my various social media sites, I couldn’t help but get an overwhelming notion of not feeling good enough and a little bit of self-doubt. I looked at my popular feed on Instagram and all I saw was what seemed like perfection. Girls with perfect bodies. People making perfect dinners. Perfectly decorated houses. Perfectly set hair and perfectly planned outfits. It was a bit of a blow to my self-esteem. I do not have a perfect body. My house is not always spotlessly clean. I do not always make the most flawless dinners. Most of the time I cannot get my hair and make up to look how I would like it. It can be very hard when you feel like everyone else is so perfect and you just cannot keep up.
Luckily, it only took a few minutes to get my senses back. Social media isn’t reality. People only post snippets of their lives, and they are the snippets that make them look fun, interesting, and good-looking. We cannot compare our perceived flaws with other people’s strengths. It just doesn’t make sense! Carefully curated pictures do not depict people’s real day-to-day lives.
The picture that I posted above is one that my husband took of me while we were in Hawaii. After he took it, he kept telling me how much he loved it. However, most of the time when I look at this picture I see a lot of the things that I wish I could change about myself. The only reason I like it is because I was so happy while he was taking it and I think that shows. I believe that we are a lot harsher on our own flaws than most other people are. That insecurity only sets in when we compare ourselves to others. As Theodore Roosevelt famously said, “comparison is the thief of joy”, and I would add, self-confidence.
As cheesy as it sounds, everyone is different in one way or another. We all have different talents. We all have different weaknesses. Not one of us is completely perfect, no matter how much we may try to portray ourselves like we are. That is why it is so important for us to recognize the unique beauty that we each hold and work to become confident in who we are.
I am terrible at doing make up. I am probably the worst talent in my sewing class. I broke my friend’s car when she tried to teach me how to drive stick (sorry Sam). I know that there are some (probably more than some) areas that I am lacking in. That is okay! I also know that I have other areas in which I succeed. The trick is to focus on the positive rather than the negative.We need to become less focused on how great everyone’s lives look, and more focused on how great ours really are.
Here is just one more picture because I love my amazing husband and now I am desperately missing Hawaii.