I hate when people pretend like their lives are perfect on social media, so I am going to be blunt. Today could be classified as bad. Everything seemed to go wrong. People were unkind and let me down. I didn’t meet the expectations I set for myself. My blood sugars were not agreeing with me. All of the time I had to get things done seemed to slip away. I didn’t get to see my husband. I cried alone in my car for 10 minutes (it sounds pretty funny as I type it out). Blah. Blah. Blah. I won’t go on any longer.
As you can see, I was feeling down. I was focusing on everything that was wrong and creating the illusion that nothing would go right. Half way through the day I decided I was going to stop feeling sorry for myself.
I made it my mission to change my attitude and perspective for the rest of the day. You know what, it actually worked! Which is why I am going to share a couple of ways that we can help bad days get a little bit better.
- Talk with someone that makes you happy. As I mentioned above, my husband was inaccessible all day, which made this step hard at first. However, when I cannot talk to my man, I turn to my BFF (aka my mum). Even if she couldn’t fix all of my problems, she listened to me, sympathized and helped me to know that someone cared. That automatically makes you feel a little bit better.
- Make a list of things that are good. This can definitely be hard when you are having a bad day. When I sat down to start thinking about the good things, it was a little bit rough. However once the good thoughts started coming, they didn’t stop. It becomes harder to think about the bad things in your life when you are listing out all of the good! Some of the smaller good things I was able to muster up were: my professor paying me a compliment, the fact that inserting my insulin pump didn’t hurt today, having a plethora of Easter candy to get a sugar rush from, etc. They don’t have to be significant things, just things that can be considered positive!
- Clear your mind. Whether it is meditation, taking a nap, listening to music you enjoy or whatever you like to do to clear your mind, do it. Clear out all of the negative thoughts to make room for new, positive ones.
- Focus on other people. It becomes hard to think about yourself when you are helping others. Even small acts like paying someone a sincere compliment, helping someone pick up something they have spilled, etc. can make you forget about your problems for even just a second. One of my favourite quotes from Gordon B. Hinckley (that I actually have already shared) says: “The best antidote I know for worry is work. The best cure for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always benefits more than he or she who is served.” I think that pretty much sums it up.
- Remember that tomorrow will be better. You know what the one good thing about bad days is? It usually means the following days have to be better. One of the thoughts that kept me going was “this time next week, I will pretty much be done with school!” The other was “In two weeks I will be in Disneyland”. There are always good things awaiting us in the future. We just have to work through our current obstacles to get there!
I know that it can be hard to gain a positive perspective on bad days. Even after following these steps you might not fully be able to get over your bad day (I must admit, I was still pretty bummed). We have to try and keep our faces toward the sun and let the shadows fall behind us! Do you have any tips that help you get over your bad days? I would definitely love to hear them.
As always, thanks for stopping by.