Ever since I was a little girl I have been excited to know that I will one day be a mother. As a child I loved pretending to be a mommy as I played with my baby dolls. As a teenager I loved to babysit other people’s kids and spend time with my sister who is 14 years my younger. Now that I am an adult, I spend most of my time thinking about and preparing to have my own children (I promise I am not currently prego).
I naively thought most people felt the same way about motherhood as I do. That it is noble, that it is a divine calling, that mothers have the most worthwhile, yet challenging career possible. I know that not everyone desires to be a mother, but I thought most people at least respected motherhood.
Lately I feel like the media, my peers and people in general are diminishing the importance of motherhood. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “You just want to be a mom?”, “Don’t you want to do anything for yourself?”, “Don’t you want to do something more fulfilling?” and many other questions and comments that under value the roles of mothers. Again, I understand not everyone wants to be a mother, but it really bothers me when people hate on motherhood. Let me tell you why.
- Everyone has a reason to be grateful for their mother. I am lucky enough to have the greatest mother of all time. I am pretty sure that she has never even thought about herself from the day I was born. Unfortunately, some of you may not be close with or have a relationship with your mothers. I can’t imagine what it would be like to feel that your mother abandoned you, abused you, didn’t care about you, etc. I am sure that it is horrible and I am so sorry. However, at some point she made a decision to bring you into this world. For a moment in time she cared about you enough to carry you inside of her own body, altering it forever, and making your life possible. One of the mothers I am most grateful for is my father’s birth mother. She could have made the decision to terminate my father’s life. Instead, she made the selfless decision to give birth to him and then attempt to give him the best life possible by giving him up for adoption. Both of these decisions were probably terrifying for her, however, they show how much she cared about my father. Just like your mother cared/s for you.
- I am unsure about how my journey with motherhood will actually go. As most of you probably know, I am a Type 1 Diabetic. This automatically puts me in the high-risk pregnancy category. It also means I have a lot of potential challenges, including having trouble getting pregnant and a higher risk for miscarriages. For someone whose dream is being a mother, this scares me speechless. It also makes me beyond angry when people take that beautiful miracle for granted or diminish its importance.
I know that motherhood isn’t everyone’s first priority. For some people becoming a mother comes after fulfilling career goals. For some people it will happen when it happens. Some people never even want kids. Whatever your personal decision is, I hope we can all respect motherhood and the sacrifices that mothers make. I greatly admire mothers all over the world who put their children before themselves and work to raise a great generation of well-adjusted people. Let’s show mothers our appreciation every day, not just on Mother’s Day.
I just have to give another shout out to my own mother because she seriously is the best. Seriously.
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